When sex and intimacy are working well they can be a real source of connection and joy in a relationship.  Yet like many precious things they can be damaged by misuse, neglect and loss.  This is an area our team is really passionate about working with because of it’s centrality to connection in relationships.

The loss of erotic connection is a long standing issue that unfortunately many couples have just come to expect or endure.  Yet our erotic connection is one of the primary connectors and sources of renewal in a relationships.  Marriages and relationships can survive without erotic connection but they are very seldom better as a result.

In this fascinating and highly acclaimed Ted talk Esther Perel introduces the notion that intimacy tends to kill erotic desire. In the counselling world this is tantamount to heresy given that the standard treatment for couples lacking erotic connection is communication exercises – learning to communicate your desires more clearly.   However Perel highlights the balance and interplay between familiarity and adventure that is essential for desire to survive.  Learning the skills to do is a fun, scary, exciting and totally worthwhile experience.

If your erotic connection is a source of pain rather than joy in your relationship then book a time with one of the team today.  This is an issue that all of our team love to work with because it is such a rewarding central issue.  Our recommendation is to check out the team profiles and see who you would both be most comfortable with.
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