The single most common reason couple contact us is a failure in communication. It is in this area that having a specialist trained couples therapist really pays off. Our team can coach you to avoid behaviours that have been proved in multiple research studies to predict divorce – and more importantly teach you tools to help you reconnect with that loving open communication that most couples start off with. Any member of our team can help you with this – simply choose someone who feels like a good fit.
The video below takes a humorous look at what is in reality a very painful problem.
Communication difficulties are the most common presenting problems for couples counsellors. There is a simple reason for this.
Firstly – Couples who can’t communicate well will almost certainly have problems in their relationship
Secondly – Couples who are having difficulties tend not to communicate well about those difficulties
The bad news
Untreated communication issues are the single most common killer of relationships – if it hurts to stay connected in your relationship – after a while you will stop connecting. Then the relationship starts to die.
The good news
Communication problems are typically the easiest problem to solve in couples therapy – if that is the sole issue couples normally take between 6-12 sessions (depending on how well you practice together) to master the skills required.
If you have a solid relational base of respect and affection – the relationship will typically start feeling radically different within 2-3 sessions.
The really great thing about working with a specialist couples therapist is that we teach you how to take those skills home to equip you for a lifetime of loving connection.
The best piece of advice I give to people struggling with communication is get help early – treat it like a warning light on the car. It’s designed to save you time, pain and money by letting you know early to get help.