Connection & Communication Issues, PreMarriage/ New Relationship Preparation, Intensives, Aspergers, Online Counselling


MNZAC, Registered Counsellor

Steven is the Director of Relate Counselling and the only NZ therapist trained in the top five approaches to couples therapy and the developer of  an advanced integrated approach to working with couples.  He has worked with couples for nearly 2 decades.

Steven travelled around the world to train under experts including Harville Hendrix, John and Julia Gottman, Stan Tatkin, Maya Kollman, Bruce Crapucettes, Tammy Nelson.  He has been actively involved in promoting and linking therapeutic and brain science insights to produce more powerful and integrated connection solutions. Steven led the Relate team in developing PORT (Presence Oriented Relationship Therapy), New Zealand’s first integrated approach to working with couples. His collaboration with other passionate international clinicians led him to be a contributor to HEART Humanistic Existential Approach to Relationship Therapy – the first evidence based couples therapy training modality.

His approach is to empower couples with tools to communicate effectively so that they can feel safe, loved and desired. He has a special interest in working with couples preparing for marriage and restoring lost connection.  Steven also runs full day and multiday intensive therapy sessions (more info).

Steven’s approach combines practical guidance and coaching in a warm and safe environment, along with teaching about the ‘hows’ and ‘whys’ of building love.  Steven also works with singles who want to prepare themselves to be in committed relationships or who are recovering from past relationship hurts.  He is also very keen to work with couples preparing for marriage to help them avoid years of unnecessary pain and disappointment by building love well in the first place.

Steven holds a Masters in Counselling is an Advanced Imago Clinician has completed level 2 and 3 training in Emotionally Focussed Therapy and Gottman Method respectively and was the Senior Clinical Instructor on the International Faculty of the Relational Path Institute teaching the evidence based Mindful Integrated Relationship Therapy.

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