Category Archives: Brain Training

The surprising relationship insights in Justin Timberlake’s mirrors song-part 2 working with complementarity

Of all the places I expect to find great relationships insights I confess Justin Timberlake was not at the top of that list. However his song Mirrors touches on a number of the most interesting and elusive themes in relationships. Last week we looked at the concept of the lost self – this week we […]

Mind-blowing Sex – Unleashing your wild child

I’m really excited in this post to introduce you to a FABULOUS author and speaker Esther Perel.  Apart from being beautiful, brilliant and funny she also captured and articulated something amazingly well in this TED talk about how to use the child (limbic) brain to keep passion alive in long term relationships.  The talk is […]

Understanding the Child brain – Queen got it right, “I want it all, I want it NOW”

When it comes to understanding the Child brain Queen got it right.  Their hit song I want it all – I want it NOW sums up the governing ethos of the child brain [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1pm4fQRl72k] The limbic (child) brain deals with the realm of emotion and physical sensory experience.  This part of the brain primarily develops […]

It’s not about the nail – or why men always want to fix things

This hilarious video highlights an important truth about empathy that can cause lots of problems in relationships or be a powerful source of connection. [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg] Relationship Guru Pat Love author of,  How to improve your marriage without talking about it comments on the fact that the brain actually has two empathy networks. The first is […]

The Demon Dance – or what to do when the love drugs wear off

I confess I was dragged to watch this movie and I muttered and grumbled and squirmed but this final scene made it all worth while.  The Story of Us tracks Pleiffer and Willis tearing themselves and their marriage apart in a slow, torturous and scarily familiar decline – and finally when things seem hopeless this […]

It’s not about the Nail – Why men always want to fix things and what to do about it

This hilarious video highlights an important truth about empathy that can cause lots of problems in relationships or be a powerful source of connection. Fabulous Imago Therapist Pat Love in a recent talk commented on the fact that the brain actually has two empathy networks. The first is the one most woman are familiar with […]

Can your Marriage Survive your teenager?- – or why teenagers drive us batty.

I recently read a great article by Suzanne Phillips Raising Teens Without Ruining Your Marriage: Three Principles   What I loved so much about is that it highlights a core stressor for couples which is adjusting to the sheer chaos that emerges in relationships as children go through their teens.  Whenever I work with couples I […]