Understanding the Child brain – Queen got it right, “I want it all, I want it NOW”

When it comes to understanding the Child brain Queen got it right.  Their hit song I want it all – I want it NOW sums up the governing ethos of the child brain [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1pm4fQRl72k] The limbic (child) brain deals with the realm of emotion and physical sensory experience.  This part of the brain primarily develops […]

It’s not about the nail – or why men always want to fix things

This hilarious video highlights an important truth about empathy that can cause lots of problems in relationships or be a powerful source of connection. [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg] Relationship Guru Pat Love author of,  How to improve your marriage without talking about it comments on the fact that the brain actually has two empathy networks. The first is […]

Understanding the Baby Brain Part 2 – Why children of alcoholics marry other alcoholics

This movie was something of a testimony to how difficult it is to make Meg Ryan look bad, it portrays Meg as a woman who nearly destroyed her movie with alcohol and runs some close parallels to the real life struggles Meg experienced in her marriage to Dennis Quaid.  The questions is often asked why […]

Understanding the Baby Brain – Symbiosis and Eternity

This gripping video reveals the power and importance of connection – it dramatically illustrates how vital emotional connection is to the infant. Watch the time delay from the still face till the infant notices . . . [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0] As  you enter the world of an infant it is crucial to understand how vulnerable and dependent […]

Why I don’t have a lizard brain – why male scientists should talk to their wives

In the 1960’s neuroscientist Paul Maclean developed a theory of the brain that proposed a layered development over the course of evolution from a reptilian base to mammalian ‘midbrain’ and the apex being the ‘human’ neo-cortex.  This model is no longer used much by scientists in the field but it remains popular in the lay […]

Why do I always fall for Jerks – Is there hope for Rihanna?

Rihanna is fabulously talented, beautiful, wealthy and desired.  At one level it seems hard to understand why she would choose to be in a relationship with an aggressive and violent man like Chris Brown and then to return to him following repeated domestic violence. [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJgQ8aN1-pM] In fact her situation is  far more common than we […]

The Demon Dance – or what to do when the love drugs wear off

I confess I was dragged to watch this movie and I muttered and grumbled and squirmed but this final scene made it all worth while.  The Story of Us tracks Pleiffer and Willis tearing themselves and their marriage apart in a slow, torturous and scarily familiar decline – and finally when things seem hopeless this […]

Why Tom was jumping on Oprah’s couch – the Love drug that makes you Crazy!

Most people will remember with some cringing embarrassment the scene where Tom Cruise newly smitten with Katie Holmes was jumping up and down on Oprah’s couch. [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GNrB6qpmNwg] Cynics claim a Hollywood beat-up noting how out of character it seemed for the normally super-controlled Cruise. In fact there may be a simpler explanation – Cruise was […]

A surprising tool to get more of the love you really want?

I heard a cute joke the other day, a couple is hanging out together when the woman turns to the guy and says,  “Honey do you think I’m beautiful?” “Mmhmm,” the guy agrees.  “Do you feel lucky to be loved by me?” she continues, “Uh huh,” he nods.  “Oh darling,” she gushes, “you say the […]

It’s not about the nail or Why men always try to fix things – Part 2

This is part 2 in this post, last post I talked about how men and women tend to be socialised to use two different empathy networks (the mirror neuron network and the TPJ (or lets fix it) network). But the big question is what do you do about it. There is a handy technique that […]