Survival and recovery following the discovery of an affair
Discovery of your partner's infidelity can trigger a wide range of thoughts and feelings - often simultaneously.
You may feel angry, devastated, betrayed, humiliated, ashamed, rejected, fearful and abandoned or you may simply feel strangely numb or detached like this is happening to someone else - not you.
You may feel a sense of relief that your nagging suspicions have been confirmed or you feel completely blindsided and be wondering how you could have missed the signs.
You may be coping by preparing to leave, raging, confiding in anyone who will listen, interrogating your partner or making demands.
If there are children involved you may be planning or worrying about the impact on them.
Perhaps the most universal experience is a sense of loneliness.
Affairs are seldom a topic for polite dinner conversation, and even our trusted friends can quickly become overwhelmed or fail to comprehend the depths of your pain.
Getting good information about affairs is also a problem:
Do couples survive affairs?
Should you leave?
What happens if they cheat again?
How would you rebuild trust?
Could you survive being single?
What about the children?
The reality is that the answers to these questions are all highly personal and this is an area where the support of an experienced relationship therapist will make all the difference saving you time, money and emotional pain.
The team at Relate Counselling has a number of practitioners who specialise in working with affairs - we offer a number of unique assessment and intensive tools to help couples in this situation and our team approach enables us to respond quickly and effectively to help you resolve the issues that the affair has raised.
A word of hope - it is our experience that about 65% of couples survive an affair. The typical experience of those who commit to doing the necessary work is that around a year later the person who was cheated (in this case you) says something like, "This has been an incredibly tough year for both of us - but our relationship is now better than it ever was."
Give yourself and your relationship the best possible support - book a relationship rescue today.
A great overview of the issues of infidelity from a world class therapist.
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