The video below takes a humorous look at what is in reality a very painful problem.
Communication difficulties are the most common presenting problems for couples counsellors. There is a simple reason for this.
Firstly - Couples who can't communicate well will almost certainly have problems in their relationship
Secondly - Couples who are having difficulties tend not to communicate well about those difficulties
The bad news
Untreated communication issues are the single most common killer of relationships - if it hurts to stay connected in your relationship - after a while you will stop connecting. Then the relationship starts to die.
The good news
Communication problems are typically the easiest problem to solve in couples therapy - if that is the sole issue couples normally take between 6-12 sessions (depending on how well you practice together) to master the skills required.
If you have a solid relational base of respect and affection - the relationship will typically start feeling radically different within 2-3 sessions.
The really great thing about working with a specialist couples therapist is that we teach you how to take those skills home to equip you for a lifetime of loving connection.
The best piece of advice I give to people struggling with communication is get help early - treat it like a warning light on the car. It's designed to save you time, pain and money by letting you know early to get help.